As a woman who has experienced the heartache of a long-term, broken (even sometimes abusive) relationship and who then continued to engage in more fruitless, broken relationships, I understand that love can wound you. It can wound you so much so that you continue into a cycle of hurt and pain with more men. A cycle that Christ never intended for you to be in.
As a part of this prayer series, God has placed it on my heart to write a prayer for women who were just as I was – broken, beat down, and spiraling through a non-stop cycle of hurt and pain. Here is my prayer to you, the single woman still wounded by love:
I pray that you understand that past failed relationships (whether long-term or even just casual sexual relationships) do not make you unlovable. Whether you have had one failed relationship or a thousand, that does not diminish the love God has for you. God loves you so much He took the time to fashion you together in your mother’s womb – uniquely designing every bit of you. He calls you His daughter, and like any good Father, He wants what is best for you. The fact that a man or many men no longer love you does not make you unlovable. God loves you – everything about you. Even at your worst, you are loved by Him. And I pray you do not forget it.
I pray that you do the hard work of letting go and learning from those past failed relationships. Failed relationships cut deep. It’s okay to have a scar, but it’s not okay to keep picking at the wound and never letting it heal. It’s not wrong to have had failed relationships. We all have them, but you can’t keep re-hashing them. Stop accepting his calls, looking at his social media pages, and wondering about him. Do whatever it takes to accept the failed relationships. At some point, I pray you let it go, and accept that it was not God’s plan for you. And I pray you let it go and do the even harder thing – learn from it. Learn to choose differently, learn when to leave, learn to ask God first before you enter into another relationship, even learn where you were wrong. Because we all make mistakes. And it’s easy to only look at what was done to us and never look at what we may have done. I pray that you let it go, learn from it, so eventually, you can move on.
Lastly, I pray you begin to live this single life to the fullest. Not letting the wounds of the past push you into empty relationships looking for satisfaction from men that only Christ can give. And that you use this new found satisfaction in Christ to do the things He has called you to do. Let your singleness not be filled with more wounds, empty relationships, and broken promises – but let it be filled with the satisfaction and love that Christ has to give.
This I pray for you.
In Jesus Name I Pray,
As a single woman, what have you prayed for when you felt wounded by love? Comment below.
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