As a single woman, I pray for many things. But these are the 5 things that I pray for the most and that seem to have had the biggest impact on my single life:
Discipline. As a single woman, I have been granted time that a married woman just doesn’t have. But as a single, I must pray about being disciplined over how I spend my time – using my time wisely when it comes to prayer, reading the Word, and spending time with God. Being careful not to dwindle away this precious time on lesser things – like binge-watching my favorite Netflix series or napping my Saturdays away (not to say these things are bad in moderation, but they should not be priority over my time with God). Not only should I be disciplined in the spiritual things, but in the practical things as well, such as how I spend my money (careful not spend everything I make).
To realize singleness is not all about preparation for marriage. It’s not a “waiting room” until you finally enter marriage. With so many posts about How to Meet Your Boaz and Live Happily Ever After and How to Get Married in 10 Days (I’m kidding!), it can feel that way. But singleness is about God’s glory and sanctification – just like any other season. There’s a real beauty to singleness! In 1 Corinthians, Paul describes this beauty as being free from concern and being able to give the Lord undivided devotion that a married person just can’t (because they are divided between pleasing their spouse and pleasing the Lord). As a single, I’m able to spend a lot of time serving, discipling, and in community with other believers. I’m able to travel or even move to another city if the Lord would call me to. I’m not just single to prep for marriage – I’m single because the Lord sees this season as what’s best for me and is using this season to draw me near to Him. And I pray not to forget this.
To let go and learn from past failed relationships. It’s easy to cling to the things of the past – whether it’s a failed marriage, a relationship that finally ended with your college or high school sweetheart, or a bad relationship with the father of your kids. It’s easy to keep re-hashing every terrible memory and replaying every malicious word ever said. Never allowing the wounds from the past to heal just like a child who continues to pick at their scabs. But eventually, and with God’s help, you have to let it go. You have to accept it for what it was – the good and the bad. But most of all, you have to learn from it – learn to choose differently, learn when to walk away, learn red flags and to follow your discernment when it tells you something just isn’t right. Even learn where you were wrong in that relationship (because it’s easy to only look at what was done to you and never look at what you did to the other person). Pray to let go, learn from it, and then, eventually one day, move on!
To forgive, even if no apology was ever given. Pray to forgive the ex who never apologized for doing you dirty. Pray to forgive the negligent parent who wasn’t there to raise you. Pray to forgive yourself. Pray to forgive that person who did those unspeakable acts to you that keep your heart so locked up only Christ can break the chains and set it free. Forgive. Easier said than done. But our sole existence as Christians is based on God’s forgiveness – that He loved us so much that He would forgive us for our sins and give His only Son to die on the cross for those sins. And if we call ourselves true followers of Christ – we have to forgive just as our Father forgave us.
Maturity. Pray to grow up in the Lord. Pray that you live in accordance with God’s will for your life – not that you live any which way ignoring His commands. But that you live to do His work and His will – going to the places He calls you to go, working the jobs He calls you to work, marrying the person He calls you to marry, and being the woman or man of God He calls you to be. Pray that He takes you through trials and tribulations of many kinds, so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. Pray, not only to grow older, but to actually grow up in the Lord!
As a single, what do you pray for? Comment below.
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Also, check out the other blogs in PRAYER SERIES: Why I Don’t Pray: 3 Not So Great Excuses, A Prayer for the Single Woman Still Wounded by Love, and What to Pray When You Want to be Used by God