As a Single, Christian Woman, Should I Live by Myself or With Roommates?
As I stated in my previous post, 5 Benefits of Living with Roommates as a Single, Christian Woman, I’ve lived everywhere as a single woman.
My parents’ home.
An apartment with a roommate after college.
My own apartment (on 3 separate occasions – once for a 10-week internship and twice for over a year each time).
And now, I am currently living in a home with 3 other roommates.
5 Benefits of Living Alone
With that being said, I know there are pros and cons of both living alone and living with roommates. And that when you are in the process of deciding on living alone or with roommates – there’s a lot to consider – so be prayerful and consider these 5 Benefits of Living Alone:
Alone Time with God
Living alone doesn’t mean you will be lonely. In fact, living on your own can provide a lot of alone time with God (if you’re careful not to dwindle it away binge-watching Netflix – points to self!).
It took practice, but I eventually learned to take advantage of coming home to an empty apartment. After a long day of work, I would come home, put my phone on silent, and sit in the same place everyday to read my Word, pray, and journal to God.
It was hard at first! I had to fight giving in to my distractions – whether it was TV, Netflix, or just cleaning stuff in my apartment. Doing that everyday led to a routine and a desire to want to spend time alone with God. I began craving that alone time and couldn’t wait to get home and spend it with Him.
If you live alone, you can, with some practice, put your phone on silent and just be alone with God.
You Can Make Your House an Inviting Home
Living with roommates or with parents often requires you to check in with them to ensure having guests over is okay. But living on your own frees you to turn your house into an inviting home. When I lived alone, I used my apartment to host intimate gatherings, such as Bible studies, movie nights, or just to catch up and hangout with friends. I even hosted bigger gatherings, such as Christmas parties.
As a single woman living alone, you are free to invite others into my home at anytime and for any occasion.
God Births New Ideas in You
In the quietness of living alone, you get a lot of time just to think. And when you’re spending time alone with God, He’ll probably place some new ideas in your heart.
For me, in the quietness of my own apartment, BecomeLess.net was born. I had been writing since I was a child – keeping a journal, writing short stories, poems, everything – but I never considered publicly showing my writing. It was just something I loved to do in my alone time and how I best expressed myself. But, while living alone, the Lord gave me the idea to begin sharing my writing publicly and start this blog. So I started a journal for potential blog posts and created a blog vision board. Eventually, with all the alone time I had, I began blogging.
Living alone can birth new ideas. Sometimes, you have to be alone – away from the distractions of other people – for God to show you His vision and what He’s calling you to do.
God Becomes Your Sole Provider
I don’t know about you, but some of my hardest financial days were while living on my own. As a single woman, it can get hard paying all of the bills. Rent, utilities, car note, groceries, and whatever else needs to get paid can feel like a lot some months. Sometimes, we create our own financial problems by living beyond our means. But other times, no matter how much of a budgetnista we are or how much is in our savings, life just happens!
For me, this happened when God changed all my plans and led me to leave my lucrative accounting career to become a teacher. But in between the time from being an accountant to being a full-time teacher, I was a substitute teacher, which cut my income nearly in half! And I was living on my own during that time. Everything I had saved – both in my savings and 401(k) was gone within 6 months. That money and career I had “depended on” was no longer dependable!
That’s when God showed me that He was my sole provider – not just in my finances, but in all things! I had to lean on Him to provide for the bills, for the emotional strength to become a teacher (if you’re a teacher, you know what I mean), for His comfort to not worry about things, for everything!
In living alone, God can show you that He’s your sole provider.
God Becomes Your Best Listening Ear
I would be lying to you if I told you that living alone as a single woman is always easy. There will be some lonely days and lonely nights. But in those times, when you’re all alone, your friends and family aren’t answering the phone, God will become your best listening ear. In those times of loneliness, God will always be there.
The Bible says to “cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you (1 Peter 5:7)”. And in those quiet, lonely days and nights, you can tell the Lord all that concerns you because He really cares for you.
Living alone and living with roommates both have their benefits. If you’re currently deciding, pray and consider the benefits to both. (Check out the 5 Benefits of Living with Roommates as a Single, Christian Woman).
Ladies, what do you think are the benefits of living alone? Share your stories below.
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