5 Benefits of Living Alone as a Single, Christian Woman

As a Single, Christian Woman, Should I Live by Myself or With Roommates?

As I stated in my previous post, 5 Benefits of Living with Roommates as a Single, Christian Woman, I’ve lived everywhere as a single woman.

My parents’ home.

College dorms.

An apartment with a roommate after college.

My own apartment (on 3 separate occasions – once for a 10-week internship and twice for over a year each time).

And now, I am currently living in a home with 3 other roommates.

5 Benefits of Living Alone

With that being said, I know there are pros and cons of both living alone and living with roommates. And that when you are in the process of deciding on living alone or with roommates – there’s a lot to consider – so be prayerful and consider these 5 Benefits of Living Alone:

Alone Time with God

Living alone doesn’t mean you will be lonely. In fact, living on your own can provide a lot of alone time with God (if you’re careful not to dwindle it away binge-watching Netflix – points to self!).

It took practice, but I eventually learned to take advantage of coming home to an empty apartment. After a long day of work, I would come home, put my phone on silent, and sit in the same place everyday to read my Word, pray, and journal to God.

It was hard at first! I had to fight giving in to my distractions – whether it was TV, Netflix, or just cleaning stuff in my apartment. Doing that everyday led to a routine and a desire to want to spend time alone with God. I began craving that alone time and couldn’t wait to get home and spend it with Him.

If you live alone, you can, with some practice, put your phone on silent and just be alone with God.

You Can Make Your House an Inviting Home

Living with roommates or with parents often requires you to check in with them to ensure having guests over is okay. But living on your own frees you to turn your house into an inviting home. When I lived alone, I used my apartment to host intimate gatherings, such as Bible studies, movie nights, or just to catch up and hangout with friends. I even hosted bigger gatherings, such as Christmas parties.

As a single woman living alone, you are free to invite others into my home at anytime and for any occasion.

God Births New Ideas in You

In the quietness of living alone, you get a lot of time just to think. And when you’re spending time alone with God, He’ll probably place some new ideas in your heart.

For me, in the quietness of my own apartment, BecomeLess.net was born. I had been writing since I was a child – keeping a journal, writing short stories, poems, everything – but I never considered publicly showing my writing. It was just something I loved to do in my alone time and how I best expressed myself. But, while living alone, the Lord gave me the idea to begin sharing my writing publicly and start this blog. So I started a journal for potential blog posts and created a blog vision board. Eventually, with all the alone time I had, I began blogging.

Living alone can birth new ideas. Sometimes, you have to be alone – away from the distractions of other people – for God to show you His vision and what He’s calling you to do.

God Becomes Your Sole Provider

I don’t know about you, but some of my hardest financial days were while living on my own. As a single woman, it can get hard paying all of the bills. Rent, utilities, car note, groceries, and whatever else needs to get paid can feel like a lot some months. Sometimes, we create our own financial problems by living beyond our means. But other times, no matter how much of a budgetnista we are or how much is in our savings, life just happens!

For me, this happened when God changed all my plans and led me to leave my lucrative accounting career to become a teacher. But in between the time from being an accountant to being a full-time teacher, I was a substitute teacher, which cut my income nearly in half! And I was living on my own during that time. Everything I had saved – both in my savings and 401(k) was gone within 6 months. That money and career I had “depended on” was no longer dependable!

That’s when God showed me that He was my sole provider – not just in my finances, but in all things! I had to lean on Him to provide for the bills, for the emotional strength to become a teacher (if you’re a teacher, you know what I mean), for His comfort to not worry about things, for everything!

In living alone, God can show you that He’s your sole provider.

God Becomes Your Best Listening Ear

I would be lying to you if I told you that living alone as a single woman is always easy. There will be some lonely days and lonely nights. But in those times, when you’re all alone, your friends and family aren’t answering the phone, God will become your best listening ear. In those times of loneliness, God will always be there.

The Bible says to “cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you (1 Peter 5:7)”. And in those quiet, lonely days and nights, you can tell the Lord all that concerns you because He really cares for you.

Living alone and living with roommates both have their benefits. If you’re currently deciding, pray and consider the benefits to both. (Check out the 5 Benefits of Living with Roommates as a Single, Christian Woman).

Ladies, what do you think are the benefits of living alone? Share your stories below.


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8 Comments

  1. Sooo good! I too have lived everywhere. I’m going on my 3rd year of solo living and while in a season where finances look tighter and bills bigger-God has been my sole provider.
    Also, I hope to use my alone time to dig into the Word…some days this happens and it’s so satisfying-praying that this becomes more than a whim of inspiration but truly a practice that I come to delight in.

    Thanks for sharing your heart ❤️

    1. With time and practice, you’ll delight in it more and more. It took me awhile to get used to putting my phone on silent and to stop being so easily distracted – but once, I got used to it, that time with God was sooo good!
      (Now, I’m re-learning that practice with roomies! 🤗)

      Glad you were encouraged, LaShawn! You’ll get that alone time down in no time! 😊

  2. Lovely article. When I was in my 20’s and 30’s I truly didn’t appreciate being single and living alone (being a single mom). Yet, God has shown me how much of a blessing it is now with my son living away from me. I am truly blessed to have this time to worship him and create through my writing and blog. Thank you for sharing. Charlene – https://faithtoraisenate.com

    1. It’s so easy to take it for granted – the time you get to spend with God while living alone.

      That’s awesome, Charlene! So glad you’re making the most of it with spending time with Him and blogging! Love your blog – keep it up!

  3. I used to live alone and I feel that I was much more disciplined then! I definitely spent more time with the Lord and exercised on a regular basis. I live with my family now and although I appreciate not being lonely, I miss my special times with the Lord and I was in better shape physically also.

    1. I agree, Margo! When I lived alone, I was more disciplined in my time spent with the Lord. But it did take me awhile to learn that discipline (rather than dwindling my alone time on TV or Netflix 🙂 ).

      I am currently living with roommates and am working towards that discipline again. I think whether living alone, with roommates, or with family, using our time wisely and to draw near to the Lord has to be learned and re-learned over and over again.

  4. This post is AMAZING!!! (I finally grabbed some time to read your posts lol.) I have been going through a constant battle with living alone and having a roommate. You hit the nail with great valid points, but I definitely relate to how God speaks when you are alone!! Lately, all of my visions and ideas come when I’m alone, I’m like ‘Yes, God!!’ I’m grateful that God put this topic in your heart into your site. It’s right on time!!

    1. So glad you were finally able to read a post and it was just what you needed! I know we connected awhile back on IG.

      The decision to have a roommate or live alone is always a tough one – but they both have some pretty awesome benefits! Let me know what you decide! Would love to hear some of the benefits of whatever you decide – whether it’s living alone or with roommates!

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